Surrendering to God ~ The Choice is Ours: Perfect Love Or Almond Trail Mix Love (The Surrender Series ~ Part Five)

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I love my cat and dog. I love my husband and children more.

I’d cry for my pets, but I’d die for my family. 

And yet, my love for my family isn’t perfect, because I’m not perfect.

But, there’s One who’s not only perfect, but also did die for us.

Perfect love.

If we surrender to God, we’re surrendering to:

One who loves us with a perfect love

“But from everlasting to everlasting the LORD’s love is with those who fear Him, and His righteousness with their children’s children,”
~ Psalm 103:17

“…you are precious to Me. You are honored, and I love you.”
~ Isaiah 43:4

“For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.”
~ John 3:16

God doesn’t just love us. He loves us perfectly. 

Our minds can accept the logic that a perfect God loves perfectly, however

That’s the rub, isn’t: The Big “HOWEVER.” 

We may know in our minds that God loves us, however, it’s too easy to doubt His love when life hits hard. 

The truth is that if we could see every situation as God sees it and could see the end from the beginning as He does, we’d do exactly the same as He did. 

God’s love can feel terrifying at times, but it can always be trusted — and, oh, how that matters.

God lets big stuff smack us in the face at times that seems to prove His love can’t always be trusted, but we must never doubt in the dark what God has shown us in the light.

I remember reading about Teresa of Avila, a catholic nun who lived in the 1500’s. One day her horse bucked her off and sent her sailing. As she lay, sprawling and sore, she said, “Dear Lord, if this is how You treat Your friends, it’s no wonder You have so few!” 

I laugh, but I feel the same way at times. 

God lets life buck us into a ditch, however His love never fails. 

God loves us perfectly, thus we can trust Him even as we soar through the air having no idea where we’ll land or in what condition we’ll land in. 

We can’t understand all His ways. They’re beyond our ability to comprehend at times. (Isaiah 55:8-9)

We want to understand, but we don’t need to; we only need to trust — despite our feelings.

Our feelings distort the facts and toss us into unbelief — the worst place to land.

Unbelief is where we’re prime to believe lies about God and stop following Him, wandering around at the mercy of our merciless feelings. 

Let’s settle in our hearts once and for all the indisputable truth that God loves us perfectly. It changes our outlook on everything and gives God a willing vessel through which He can shower His blessings.

What could be better?

Surrendering to someone who doesn’t love with a perfect love?

Let’s see…


If we don’t surrender to God, we’ll surrender to

Someone who loves with an imperfect, selfish love, or something that can’t even love at all.  

“The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?”
~ Jeremiah 17:9 

“…there is no one who does good, not even one.”
~ Romans 3:12

I told you I love my husband, but sometimes he can get on my last nerve when he eats almonds in my presence.

I know. You can’t believe he does that either, right?

The crunching sound is sheer torture. You might as well just throw me into a room of chalkboards and scratch fingernails down them while you’re at it. 

When Larry walks into the room with his hand cupped, I cringe. I know he’s holding a handful of almond trail mix, and the horrid crunching sound is seconds away from curling my toes.

Why must he consume almonds in the house? Is it really too much to ask of him to go outside and eat them in the woods?

If Larry surrendered to me and depended on my love to fulfill his every need, I think we’ve all seen that it would be a very poor choice indeed. 

He can’t even eat a healthy snack in my presence without my perfect love disintegrating into grunts of unloving disapproval.

My love is Almond Trail Mix Love — a mixture of unconditional love and selfish human love. It’s not perfect. 

We’re not going to find anyone on the planet who’ll love us perfectly. They can’t. They’re human. 

Surrendering to anything that can’t love, like a career or dream, is possibly even more doomed to disappoint.

A career or dream can be exciting, but they’ll never fill our need for loving relationships. 

Apart from God, any fulfillment we experience in our relationships, careers or dreams is fleeting, or elusive and frustrating.  

We’ll enjoy wonderful moments of happiness, but happiness based on someone or something that’s not perfect will eventually fade or falter. 

We should love others and our careers with joyful abandon, but fully surrender to God.

Does Surrendering to God Guarantee Love, Joy, and Happiness All the Time?

Yes and no. 

Yes, we’re guaranteed God’s love, and the joy and happiness that comes from experiencing God’s love is guaranteed to be available to us all the time.

But no, feelings of love, joy, and happiness will not always outweigh the emotions we face as humans. 

Anger, sadness, confusion, and anxiety are all part of the human experience. We won’t avoid them, but if we trust in God’s perfect love though them, we’ll bring Him glory and receive His blessings. 

I hope we’re seeing that surrendering to One who is worthy and loves us with a perfect love just makes common sense. 

I also hope you’ll join me for my next post as we look at more confirmation that surrendering to God is the smartest move we can make.

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Still Struggling to Surrender to God? Let’s Face the Facts: It’s Either God or Batman (Part Four ~ The Surrender Series)

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Still struggling to surrender to God?

It’s either God or Batman.

I think that’s going to need some explanation.

As humans, we have a strong desire to conform to whatever or whoever we admire and respect.

Hero worship pervades every facet of our society whether it’s in sports, music, theater, politics, or science. We dress, act, and look like those we admire, such as Batman.

Businesses make a fortune on this desire to be just like the latest, greatest superstar or hero.

When we hear Gatorade tells us to “Be Like Mike!” we know who they’re talking about even though Michael Jordan retired from basketball way back in 2003.

People worship. We were made for it.

Even as far back as Cicero in the first century B.C., philosophers observed that religion in one form or another is a universal trait.[1]

Part of worship is fully giving ourselves over to the object of our worship. We surrender to whatever we worship.

As humans we’re going to worship something or someone. How much better to worship someone worthy — and only God is worthy.

Looking back at the list about God from the beginning of this Surrender Series, I want us to take a closer look at each statement.  

Facing the facts of these statements will help us move from wanting to want to surrender to God, to actually wanting to surrender.

I’ll work through this list slowly over the next several posts because this is important.

Let’s Face the Facts:

If we surrender to God, we’re surrendering to:

One who is WORTHY.  

“Great is the LORD and most worthy of praise;
His greatness no one can fathom.”
~ Psalm 145:3

We need to understand and settle in our hearts that God is completely worthy of all our praise.

Creation echoes this truth and reflects His worthiness:

  • If we stretched out every artery, vein, and capillary in our body and laid them end-to-end, we’d have to walk about 90,000 miles to get to the end.
  • Our kidneys filter all 90,000 miles of our blood about every five minutes.
  • At the same time, our kidneys pull about forty gallons of water from our blood every day, putting 99% of it back after it’s filtered.[2]

All of this is going on without a single thought or notice from us.

As Jesus entered Jerusalem before His crucifixion, a crowd of disciples began to praise Jesus as their king. Some Pharisees told Jesus to rebuke the disciples. He replied, “If they keep quiet, the stones will cry out.” (Luke 19:40)

The question is not IF God is worthy of our surrendering to Him; the question is IF we’ll do it. 


If we do NOT surrender to God,

we WILL surrender to:

one who is UNWORTHY.

We will surrender to someone or something.

If it’s not God, it’ll be something else because we were made to worship.

It may be a variety of things, such as a relationship, our work, or even the quest for acceptance.

It may even be ourselves. After all, we’re the only ones who could possibly know what will best fill our needs and desires.


Welcome to the grand illusion.

We humans can’t know what’s best for ourselves all the time.

To do that, we’d have to posses complete knowledge of every action we could take and the consequence of each of those actions at every moment.

As amazing as our brains are, they’re too limited for such knowledge. 

God alone has intimate knowledge of everything there is to know.

He never learns anything new. He knows everything completely already.

Thus, God alone is the One to whom we should surrender.

He alone is worthy of worship.

In Acts 10:24-26, Cornelius fell at Peter’s feet and worshipped him. Peter immediately lifted him up, saying, “Stand up; I myself am also a man.”

In Revelation 19:10, John fell at the feet of an angel to worship him: “But he said to me, ‘See that you do not do that! I am your fellow servant, and of your brethren who have the testimony of Jesus. Worship God!’”

In Exodus 20:1-5a God commanded His people: “You must not have any other god but Me. . . You must not bow down to them or worship them, for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God who will not tolerate your affection for any other gods.”

God is a jealous God, and that’s good for us.

I remember the first time I heard Oprah Winfrey state that her spirit was bothered by God calling Himself a “jealous God.” She said, “God is jealous of me?”

My heart was sick over her gross misunderstanding of what God was saying.

(By the way, this is a stark example of why I continually proclaim that we must study the Bible so we know what the Bible is actually saying.)

God is NOT jealous of Oprah Winfrey or me or you.

He is, however, jealous for His name because no other name is worthy of worship.

Godly jealousy is far from human jealousy.

Out of God’s love for us, He wants only the best for us.


It’s not egotistical for God to say that. It’s truth. It’s egotistical for anyone else to say that, but not for God.

If we worship anyone other than God,

we’re the ones who end up hurt.

Unworthy worship can’t help but end poorly because it’s unable to hold up to the pressure of the demands of worthiness.

If a race car driver’s pit crew puts on even one defective tire, eventually that tire is going to blow and the whole race could end in destruction for the driver — and take down other drivers with him.

A defective tire can’t withstand the force put on it during a race. It will blow, no matter how good it looks going on.

Likewise, no one but God can withstand the pressure of others surrendering fully to them, no matter how perfect they may appear to be.

Oh, how the mighty have fallen.

Tiger Woods, Bill Cosby, Lance Armstrong, Robin Williams, Oscar Pistorius and many other of our beloved heroes fell hard.

They, like us, weren’t worthy to be be worshipped.

Either We Open Our Eyes

or God Will Open Them For Us.

When we worship anyone or anything other than God, He’ll mercifully step in, or step aside, to wake us up to the reality of our destructive path.

If neither the sheer wonder of God’s creation nor the truth written on every page of the Bible opens our eyes to God’s worthiness, He’ll open our eyes another way.

But we won’t get to choose what way that will be. Think about that!

Since God knows best, He’ll choose the way He knows will work for us.

He’s not out to punish us, but to draw us away from a dangerous path of idol worship and surrender.

He wants to draw us onto the path of worship and surrender that will bless us, not harm us.

He wants to draw us to Himself because He alone is worthy of all worship and surrender.

I pray I’ll always choose to open my eyes to His sole worthiness before He’s forced to do it for me.

But even if God must open my eyes for me, I’d rather have my eyes opened to God in any way necessary than to leave this earth blind to Him.

Otherwise, it won’t be a pretty sight on the other side of eternity.


All people worship.

All people surrender.

Let’s surrender to the only One who’s worthy.

Let’s surrender to God.

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[1] Dummelow, J. R. 1944. Commentary on the Holy Bible. New York, NY: Macmillan.

[2] Exploring Creation with General Science, by Dr. Jay L. Wile, Apologia Educational Ministries, pg 347, p 379, p 381.


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Surrendering to God: The “Want to Want to” Dilemma (Part Three – The Surrender Series)

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“Everyone is leaping off the cliff into the soft sand. I really want to do it, too, but I can’t.”

Really? I really want to?

Unless my legs don’t work, no one is believing my claim of I really want to.

“I know I need to forgive her, and I really want to, but I can’t.” 

Really? Is it physically impossible to forgive her?

“Officer, I really wanted to obey the speed limit, but I just couldn’t.”

Wow! Unless the car drove itself, he’s not buying that one either.

Of course, what I really mean is, I can, but I don’t want to leap, forgive, or obey the speed limit.

But I sure wish I wanted to.

It’s what I call the “Want to Want to” Dilemma.

The basis for this principle is: 

Man will always do
whatever he wants to do
as long as he’s physically capable
of doing it. 

No matter how much I think or declare that I want to do something, the truth is, I don’t, or else I would, if I physically could.

The only thing holding us back from surrendering to God, then, is our lack of want to.

Our true desires determine our ultimate choice. 

If we haven’t surrendered to God, it’s because we don’t want to. 

We only want to want to. 

That’s the “Want to Want to” Dilemma.

As long as we only wish we wanted to surrender, we won’t. 

We must pass from wanting to want to surrender to God to wanting to surrender to Him.

Then nothing will stop us. 

It’s a simple principle. 

I want to fly like Peter Pan, but that’s physically impossible, so I can’t. 

But, if I had a wingsuit, I’d be physically able.

I could leap off a cliff and soar through the air like Peter Pan.

Since I say I want to fly like him, would I jump with a wingsuit?

No way! I’m terrified of heights, and wingsuits require leaps off ridiculous heights.

As Peter Pan, I was only planning on flying five feet off the ground. 

But I want to want to jump off a cliff in a wingsuit. Those guys are having the time of their lives.

Sadly, I hate the feeling of falling — especially the out-of-control and smashing into the ground type of falling that I’d be doing.

My want to is too weak to leap.

A weak want to also makes it impossible to forgive someone we don’t want to forgive.

We can say the words, but the forgiveness is not truly in our hearts, unless the want to is also there.

True surrender is a matter of the heart.

We can push a person off a cliff, but we can’t push them into surrender.

We can’t even push ourselves.

We can walk and serve in obedience to God, but it’s not surrender if the heart has not joined our hands and feet.

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It’s moving out of the “Want to Want to” Dilemma and into the “Want To” that’s hard.

To move out of the “Want to Want to” Dilemma
into a pure “Want To,” we must:

1. Accept the fact that we only want to want to.

2. Face the hard truth of why we don’t really want to.

3. Resolve the issue(s) by believing the truth of God that overcomes our objections.

The steps are simple, but not necessarily easy.

We’ll have to face some hard truths about ourselves we may not want to face.

The first truth is that we don’t really want to surrender to God after all.

Then we must look for the root of why we don’t want to surrender. (See my post: My Top Ten List of Why I Don’t Want to Surrender to God.)

Once we’ve faced the hard truths, we must humble ourselves and resolve the issues. We must reject the lies we’re believing that are holding us back and accept God’s truth.

Only when we accept God’s truth, will we move into a place of pure want to

In the video below, Jeb Corliss displays a pure want to when it comes to flying.

He does something I could never do because I’ll never want to.

He Peter Pans off a tall cliff and sails through the air in nothing but a wingsuit.

My favorite moment comes at 1:40 seconds into the video.

We get a surprising realization of how fast he’s really flying. Yikes!

Like flying in a wingsuit, surrendering to God is a leap of faith that can feel more like a free fall.

But unlike a wingsuit, we’re not surrendering to something we must control.

We’re surrendering to a God who’s able to control our entire lives.

Our job is to stay surrendered, or we’ll likely crash.

Only God knows what’s around the next corner. It’s best to let Him lead.

It may be dangerous and scary at times. But for those who are willing, it’s the purest thrill.


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Can you identify the different “Want to Want to” Dilemmas in your life?

What difference will this make to you today?

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Even Jesus had an “I don’t want to surrender” list. 

His list only had one item on it, though, not ten.

There in the Garden of Gethsemane, Jesus faced His reason not to want to surrender to God: He didn’t want to be separated from Him.

Christ knew the instant He took on the sin of the world, “became sin” as the Bible says, God would have to turn His face away from Christ. God’s holiness and our sin don’t mix.

If Jesus chose to surrender to the way of the cross, He was choosing to be separated from God.

Notice that I said Jesus had a list. I didn’t go so far as to say He didn’t want to surrender.

Christ wanted to surrender, but He had a list of one good reason why He wouldn’t want to surrender if He didn’t want to surrender, but He did want to, so He prayed, “Nevertheless, not My will, but Yours, be done.” (Luke 22:42)

None of us can put “I Don’t Want to Be Separated From God” on our top ten list of why we don’t want to surrender. For us, surrendering doesn’t interrupt our fellowship with God, it assures it. 

So what’s on my top ten list of why I don’t want to fully surrender to God?

1.    Unbelief

If we’ve never experienced living a fully surrendered life, nor seen others live surrendered, we’re forced to take God’s Word on faith.

That’s not always our favorite thing to do. Most of us prefer to see where we’ll land before we leap. 

Just because God’s Word says it works, or others say so, doesn’t mean we’re naturally going to trust it will work for us.

“Lord, I believe. Help my unbelief.” (Mark 9:24)

2.   Bad Press

A life of surrender to God is often portrayed as a life of nothing but sacrifice and pain. 

The Egyptian Christians surrendered, and ISIS chopped off their heads, right?

That’s not exactly appealing advertising for enlisting us into a life of surrender. 

“These things I have spoken to you, so that in Me you may have peace. In the world you have tribulation, but take courage; I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)

3.   Past Hurts

Most of us have been disappointed by someone or something in which we’ve placed our faith. Those times color our desire to surrender to anyone else again, even God.

We don’t want to believe that God would let us down, but deep inside, we’re scared He will. 

Surrendering to an individual can be scary. We’re giving them control over us. 

There are people to whom no one should ever surrender in any way, but God is not one of them.  

“Can a woman forget her nursing child And have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, but I will not forget you. Behold, I have inscribed you on the palms of My hands” (Isaiah 49:15-16)

4.   Enough is Enough

Since the day we were born, people have been telling us what to do. Our parents, teachers, coaches, boss, the government, etc. have told us what to do.

“Enough!” we say. We’re tired of doing what everyone else wants us to do. 

“Why do you call Me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and don’t do the things I say?” (Luke 6:46)

5.   Dreams

What if surrendering to God means giving up our hopes and dreams and accepting a life that will be rigid and trapped? 

We’ll be forced to accept God’s dreams for us instead of our own. 

We may fear God’s dreams for us will be “important,” but not fun, something we should want, but don’t really want.

“Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us” (Ephesians 3:20)

6.   Fear

If we surrender to God, will He send us off to live in a dilapidated hut somewhere in the middle of nowhere as a missionary?

Will we end up in one of ISIS’ death cages?

We’re afraid God’s “best for our life” might actually land us somewhere we’re scared to be.

“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10)

7. Loss of Identity

Hollywood has done an effective job painting Christians as pathetic, judgmental, carbon-copy Christians that make even actual Christians watching the movie cheer against them. 

To be fair, many of us Christians have given them plenty of fodder to work with as they write their scripts.

We may fear that surrendering to Christ means surrendering who we are to become a Bible-toting, bland version of who we once were. Who wants to become a Stepford wife?

“I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.” (Psalm 139:14)

8. Comfort

Some of us are willing to give up some control of our lives to God, but we’re afraid to give Him total control because we’ve built a comfortable life, and we’re afraid of losing it.

We like living under the radar. We want to be left alone. 

“And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or farms for My name’s sake, will receive many times as much, and will inherit eternal life.” (Matthew 19:29)

9.  Pride

If we’re truly honest with ourselves, the #1 reason we don’t want to surrender to God is because, in our human pride, we want to be God. 

We want to call the shots in our life, until we get into trouble. Then we suddenly want Him to show up and be Almighty God for us. (Actually, we want Him to be our Genie in a bottle. We still want to be God.)  

“One’s pride will bring him low, but he who is lowly in spirit will obtain honor.” (Proverbs 29:23)

10.  Ignorance or Dellusion

Some of us simply just don’t know we’re supposed to surrender to God. Christianity is new to us, so we’re still learning what a life with God really means. 

Others of us believe we have surrendered when we actually haven’t.

We don’t know what it looks like to be fully surrendered, so we think we have, but we’ve come short of full-all-out surrender.

Still, others of us declare we have, but it’s just a show. Our pride may be so strong that we’ve even fooled ourselves.

If you imply we haven’t surrendered, we’ll fight you over it. (By the way, if you’re ready to fight over this, it’s a pretty good sign that you haven’t fully surrendered.)

“This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.” (Joshua 1:8)


Now for some soul searching.  

We have to ask ourselves if we’re living right now fully surrendered to God.

Are we experiencing the Whatever-You-say-God-I-only-want-what-You-want-for-my-life-and-nothing-else-no-matter-what-the-cost kind of surrender? 

Our lives will never be what God intended them to be, nor what we really want them to be, until we live fully surrendered to Him. 

Surrender is a moment-by-moment choice. It’s not a one-time decision like salvation. 

Which of these reasons (or others) may be blocking our path?

We’ll talk about dealing with these obstacles in a later post, but here’s a hint: When you come to know God and His character as He really is, the obstacles melt away.

Now that you’ve seen my top ten reasons for not wanting to surrender, what are yours? Do you have some I didn’t mention? Add to my list in the comment section. I’d love to hear from you.

In my next Surrender Series post, we’ll look at an eye-opening realization that helped remove the stumbling blocks in my path to surrender. It was an “A Ha! moment” that changed me. Stay tuned!


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Many years ago I made the worst decision of my life. 

No, it wasn’t when I chose German as my college major. I found it wonderfully helpful thirty years later when when I traveled through Germany. 

My worst decision came as I sat on a vinyl covered bar stool and walked away from God. 

God and I had come to an impasse.

The life I wanted for myself didn’t match the life He seemed to want for me, so I told Him the time had come for us to go our separate ways . . . for now. 

I told Him I wouldn’t be gone forever.

I hadn’t stopped feeling love for Him, but He wanted me to surrender to Him, and I wanted Him to surrender to me. 

Since we both refused to give in, I made the worst decision of my life.

I refused to surrender to the only one worth surrendering to — the only one who can be trusted to truly know what’s best for me. 

Two years and many scars later, I found my way back to God, ready to surrender. 

At least I thought I’d surrendered. I’d learn later that God still had much to teach me.

Refreshed in my new-found relationship with God, I experienced many years of happiness and inner joy. These years erased much of the pain from the wounds I’d received during my wanderings, however, a roller coaster life of victories and failures continued to characterize my life.

Before long, I found myself digging my heels in again, on the verge of another impasse with God. My heart once again had set itself on something He seemed to be withholding from me.

Constant failure began to be my norm, and my heart cried out to God, “You always get to have your way, God. Please, let me have my way and just do what I’m asking You to do.”

Ever-patient, God spoke to me through His Word and into my aching heart and clouded mind. 

“No,” He said. “Your way leads to destruction because your way is paved with lies. Believe Me when I tell you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit.” (John 12:24)

Dying is a bit like winter. Resurrection is coming just as sure as the Spring.

Dying is a bit like winter. Resurrection is coming just as sure as the Spring. 

A friend of mine told me that she wasn’t afraid of being dead. She was only afraid of the process of dying. 

In the spiritual realm, I was afraid of both.

But I couldn’t avoid either.

I was already dying inside by fighting a battle I couldn’t win — and would’ve deeply regretted winning, if I had.

Little did I know that God was actually in the process of answering the true prayer of my heart.

I’d begged for relief. He knew what I really wanted was resurrection, and resurrection only comes after death.

Finally, on a warm Spring day, I sat on the cool, soft grass in the shade of my Vitex tree and died.

I told God, “You win. I can’t fight anymore. I don’t want to fight anymore. I just want You. I don’t care about anything else that I’ve ever wanted. Just give me You. I’ll do whatever You want me to do no matter what it costs me, and I don’t even care if You never bless me again. Just give me You.”

I died that day as I’d never died before — and I didn’t even have to wait three days for my resurrection. I stood up and walked into my house more free than I’d ever felt before.

God had won the battle, and I became the victor after all.

I had finally, fully surrendered to God.

Dying is a bit like winter.
Resurrection is coming just as sure as the Spring.
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Apart from the moment I trusted Christ for my salvation, surrendering was the smartest thing I’ve ever done. (Marrying Larry was another moment of brilliance.)

Since that Spring day in my garden, I’ve learned that with God surrender is definitely surrender, but it’s also sweet because…

When we surrender to the God of Heaven,
we’re surrendering to:

the One who is worthy. (“Great is the LORD and most worthy of praise; His greatness no one can fathom.” ~ Psalm 145:3),

the One who loves us supremely, (“But from everlasting to everlasting the LORD’s love is with those who fear Him, and His righteousness with their children’s children,” ~ Psalm 103:17),

the One who controls everything that touches ours lives, (“Can anything happen without the Lord’s permission?” ~ Lamentations 3:37), 

the One who has our absolute best interest in mind, (“’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘Plans to prosper you and not to harm you; plans to give you a hope and a future.’” ~ Jeremiah 29:11),

the One who longs to shower us with goodness, (“For the Lord is a sun and shield; He gives grace and glory; No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly.” ~ Psalm 84:11),

the One who is more than able to perform all that He purposes to do, (“For the LORD Almighty has purposed, and who can thwart him? His hand is stretched out, and who can turn it back?” ~ Isaiah 14:27)

When we really think about it, it shouldn’t be hard to surrender to someone like that.

What can possibly go wrong?

So then why do so few of us make the decision to hold nothing back and fully surrender to the One who is more than worthy to receive it all?

That’s a question we simply must answer. 

And that’s why our next journey together into the Word of God is going to be spent looking at what God says about surrender.

In my next post, we’ll look at different reasons why we may be resistant to a life of being fully surrendered to God. You’ve already gotten a glimpse into one of my reasons. (Yes, I have more.)

Have you struggled with surrendering in the past? Are you struggling with it now?

What questions do you want us to answer as we look at surrendering?

I’d love to hear from you. Leave a comment or email me. 

And then Join the Journey as we head into a life of daily, all-out, hold-nothing-back surrender to a God who’s worthy.

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